For years, the concept of being a challenge in dating has been marketed to both men and women. It has been suggested by different dating advice sources that to be more desirable, you have to be a challenge. This means that you have to act like you are less available than you really are, harder to get a hold of, and are otherwise “hard to get.” While there is some degree of truth to that, taking this idea of being a challenge too far might have an opposite effect. Not only will it suggest that you are playing games, which most people with any dating experience are aware of, but you will also likely come across yourself as needy and desperate – desperate to raise your value by resorting to a rather extreme measures of making it look like you are more busy and less available than you actually are.
